Moms: AVOID These Common Routine Mistakes!

Are you struggling to create a daily routine that actually works? If you feel like your schedule is chaotic, and nothing ever goes as planned, you might be making some common mistakes. Today, we’re going to talk about the most common mistakes busy moms make when they’re creating routines, and how to fix them! Let’s get started.

Creating A Routine That’s Too Rigid

Many moms make the mistake of creating a schedule that’s way too strict. While routines are essential, life with young kids is unpredictable, and an overly rigid routine can lead to frustration when things don’t go exactly as planned.

You want to build flexibility into your routine. Instead of scheduling every minute, create general time blocks for activities like meals and playtime. For example, instead of trying to make sure that lunch is at exactly noon every day, give yourself a window from 11-12. This allows for natural variations in the day without throwing everything off. You also want to incorporate “catch-up” moments throughout the day—10-minute slots where you can handle anything that ran over or was delayed. This prevents a single hiccup from derailing your entire schedule.

Underestimating How Long Things Take

It’s easy to underestimate how long daily tasks actually take, which leads to rushed schedules and constant frustration.

To help with this, start tracking how long common tasks really take—getting kids dressed, making breakfast, school drop-offs—that way you can schedule more realistically. Add in extra time for tasks that consistently take longer than expected. Spend a few days jotting down how long each part of your routine actually takes, and then adjust accordingly. You might be surprised how much more smoothly everything goes when you give yourself enough time for your routine.

Not Including Buffer Time

A lot of people make the mistake of planning their day back-to-back without leaving any room for transitions. This leads to rushing, stress, and inevitable meltdowns when things don’t go as planned or when unexpected things come up.

That’s why you always want to include buffer time between major activities. If you need to leave the house by 7:00, start getting out the door at 6:45. This gives you time for unexpected but inevitable delays—like diaper changes, lost shoes, or snack requests—so you aren’t constantly feeling behind. Adding buffer time helps you stay on track without feeling overwhelmed.

Overloading The To-Do List

Have you ever started the day feeling really ambitious, thinking you’re going to get through your whole to-do list? But by the end of the day you feel like you haven’t gotten anything done? That’s because overloading your to-do list leads to frustration and stress.

Instead, stick to a “Top Three” rule—write down the three most important tasks for the day. Anything else you get done is a bonus. This helps you feel productive without feeling overwhelmed. You can also batch similar tasks together to maximize efficiency. For example, set aside specific time slots for running errands or meal prepping. This helps cut down on wasted time. Make sure to set realistic time estimates for each task. If you know something will take longer, schedule it accordingly instead of trying to get it done when you don’t have enough time.

Not Asking For Help

Moms often feel like they have to do everything alone, but that’s just not true! Whether it’s your spouse, family, or even your kids, don’t be afraid to delegate.

If your kids are old enough, involve them in small chores—like putting their shoes away or setting the table. Ask your spouse for help with bedtime routines. Needing help doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human! You can also outsource when needed. If it’s within your budget, consider hiring a house cleaner once a month or using grocery delivery services to lighten the load. A great trick is to create a weekly “chore menu” where family members can pick tasks to contribute to running the household.

Not Having An Evening Routine

Many moms focus on morning routines but forget about the importance of having an evening routine. A messy house and unfinished tasks can make mornings even harder.

Try implementing a quick evening routine to reset your home. Take 10-15 minutes before bed to straighten up common areas and get things ready for the next day. This small habit can make mornings much smoother and less stressful. It can also be really helpful to have a designated spot to set out anything you need for the next day such as backpacks and shoes. This makes your morning routine easier because you don’t have to do as much before getting out the door.

Setting Unrealistic Expectations

It’s easy to fall into the trap of expecting everything to go perfectly every day. But kids get sick, meltdowns happen, and sometimes things just don’t go as planned.

Give yourself grace and allow room for imperfection. Instead of feeling defeated when things don’t go as planned, focus on adjusting and moving forward. A great strategy is to have a “Plan B” mindset—know that if something doesn’t work out, there’s always another way to handle it. Remember, a good routine is about making life easier, not adding stress to your day. So when unexpected things come up, just do your best to adjust your routine accordingly.

Trying To Be Perfect

The pressure to be the “perfect mom” is exhausting. Social media makes it look like everyone else has it all together—but trust me, they don’t!

Be kind to yourself. Focus on progress, not perfection. If your kids are fed, loved, and safe, you’re already doing an amazing job. Remind yourself that comparison is the thief of joy. Every mom has struggles, even if they aren’t posting them online. What’s most important about your routine is that it helps you do all the things you need to do. It doesn’t have to be perfect every day.

Not Taking Time To Reflect & Adjust

Sometimes, moms get stuck in the same routines, even when they’re not working. If a specific part of your day consistently feels overwhelming, it’s a sign that it might be time for a change.

Take a few minutes each week to reflect on what’s working and what’s not. Be willing to adjust your routines, or even create new ones to better suit your needs. Life changes, and so should your approach to managing it. Keep a small journal or use a note in your phone to jot down thoughts, wins, and areas for improvement. You might also want to try a “Sunday reset” where you take a few moments to plan for the upcoming week, tweak schedules, and make sure that you’re setting yourself up for success.

Final Thoughts

Motherhood isn’t always easy, but you don’t have to make it harder with these common mistakes. By making small changes, you can create smoother, more helpful routines for yourself and your family.

—Jessica